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Boys, Interrupted

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addiction, gay, conversion, faith, CALM, SurvivorsUK, film, men, boys, recovery, trauma, beautiful boy, boy erased, timothee chalamet, steve carrell, lucas hedges, nicole kidman, russell crowe, ..

Daring to look, to question

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addiction, gay, conversion, faith, CALM, SurvivorsUK, film, men, boys, recovery, trauma, beautiful boy, boy erased, timothee chalamet, steve carrell, lucas hedges, nicole kidman, russell crowe, ..

Reel to Real: Le Refuge | Io Sono L'Amore

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reel to real, R2R, film, movies, cinema, review, le refuge, francois ozon, io sono l'amore, i am love, tilda swinton, luca guadagnino, ..

Reel to Real: Le Refuge | Io Sono L'Amore

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You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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reel to real, R2R, inception, leonardo dicaprio, marion cotillard, tom hardy, ellen page, joseph gordon-levitt, ken watanabe, film, movies, cinema, review, christopher nolan, ..

Reel to Real: Inception

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reel to real, R2R, inception, leonardo dicaprio, marion cotillard, tom hardy, ellen page, joseph gordon-levitt, ken watanabe, film, movies, cinema, review, christopher nolan, ..

You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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reel to real, R2R, inception, leonardo dicaprio, marion cotillard, tom hardy, ellen page, joseph gordon-levitt, ken watanabe, film, movies, cinema, review, christopher nolan, ..

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reel to real, R2R, film, movies, cinema, review, les chansons d'amour, christophe honore, alex beaupain, louis garrel, gregorio leprince-ringuet, chiara mastroianni, ludivine saigner, clotilde hesme, musical, ..

Reel to Real: Les Chansons d'Amour

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You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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reel to real, R2R, film, cinema, movies, documentary, paul taylor, dance, ..

Reel to Real: Dancemaker

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You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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Reel to Real: Copie Conforme | The Switch

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Reel to Real: Copie Conforme | The Switch

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You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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reel to real, R2R, the end of the affair, ralph fiennes, julianne moore, neil jordan, movies, film, cinema, review, ..

Reel to Real: The End of the Affair

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reel to real, R2R, the end of the affair, ralph fiennes, julianne moore, neil jordan, movies, film, cinema, review, ..

You Like to Watch, Don’t You?

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reel to real, R2R, the end of the affair, ralph fiennes, julianne moore, neil jordan, movies, film, cinema, review, ..

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movies, meaning, self development, self awareness, will, film, cinema, reel to real, R2R, ..

I Lost It at the Movies

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movies, meaning, self development, self awareness, will, film, cinema, reel to real, R2R, ..

Lights! Camera! Action!

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movies, meaning, self development, self awareness, will, film, cinema, reel to real, R2R, ..

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kindness, love, primal wound, empathy, care, self, Carl Rogers, Mister Rogers, society, ..

To... and To Be...

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kindness, love, primal wound, empathy, care, self, Carl Rogers, Mister Rogers, society, ..

Won’t you be my neighbor…

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kindness, love, primal wound, empathy, care, self, Carl Rogers, Mister Rogers, society, ..

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stress, work, balance, leisure, hobbies, self, living, soul, new york times, jaya saxena, ..

Nothing Doing

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stress, work, balance, leisure, hobbies, self, living, soul, new york times, jaya saxena, ..

Free your mind - and the rest will follow

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stress, work, balance, leisure, hobbies, self, living, soul, new york times, jaya saxena, ..

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fear, self, Christopher Logue, growth, living, ..

Growing Pains

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fear, self, Christopher Logue, growth, living, ..

Come to the edge?

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fear, self, Christopher Logue, growth, living, ..

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the inheritance, howards end, e m forster, young vic, angels in america, tony kushner, connection, care, ..

Give A Damn

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the inheritance, howards end, e m forster, young vic, angels in america, tony kushner, connection, care, ..

Here's my heart. Break it.

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the inheritance, howards end, e m forster, young vic, angels in america, tony kushner, connection, care, ..

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polyamory, fomo, fear of missing out, debbie weiss, self, ..

FOMO

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Can I choose me?

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shame, OCD, rich monahan, new york times, MeToo, ..

Freedom

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shame, OCD, rich monahan, new york times, MeToo, ..

Shame shame shame

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shame, OCD, rich monahan, new york times, MeToo, ..

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love, family, father, son, parents, call me by your name, andre aciman, luca guadagnino, james ivory, timothee chalamet, armie hammer, michael stuhlbarg, ..

Love My Way

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love, family, father, son, parents, call me by your name, andre aciman, luca guadagnino, james ivory, timothee chalamet, armie hammer, michael stuhlbarg, ..

Blessed be the mystery....

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love, thoughts, feelings, closer, patrick marber, mike nichols, diana whitney, julia roberts, jude law, natalie portman, clive owen, ..

Head v Heart

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love, thoughts, feelings, closer, patrick marber, mike nichols, diana whitney, julia roberts, jude law, natalie portman, clive owen, ..

I feel love...

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love, thoughts, feelings, closer, patrick marber, mike nichols, diana whitney, julia roberts, jude law, natalie portman, clive owen, ..

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letting go, treasure, awareness, choice, cheryl strayed, change, ..

Either | Or

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letting go, treasure, awareness, choice, cheryl strayed, change, ..

Love, let go

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letting go, treasure, awareness, choice, cheryl strayed, change, ..

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psychosynthesis, self, balance, equipoise, david brooks, new york times, ..

Balancing Self

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'Me/Not Me' vs 'Me/You/Us/All'

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psychosynthesis, self, balance, equipoise, david brooks, new york times, ..

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forgiveness, hurt, love, justice, sex and the city, sarah jessica parker, cynthia nixon, the heart of the matter, tony kushner, ..

The Heart of the Matter

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forgiveness, hurt, love, justice, sex and the city, sarah jessica parker, cynthia nixon, the heart of the matter, tony kushner, ..

You keep carryin' that anger, it'll eat you up inside

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forgiveness, hurt, love, justice, sex and the city, sarah jessica parker, cynthia nixon, the heart of the matter, tony kushner, ..

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change, potential, angels in america, tony kushner, anais nin, ..

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

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change, potential, angels in america, tony kushner, anais nin, ..

I'm gonna start right now right here. I'm hoping to work it out. And I know that I can...

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change, potential, angels in america, tony kushner, anais nin, ..

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self, hiding, living, sexuality, shame, self-belief, self-image, andrew tobias, john reid, adam d chandler, ..

Winner!

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self, hiding, living, sexuality, shame, self-belief, self-image, andrew tobias, john reid, adam d chandler, ..

The Best Little Boys and Girls in the World…

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self, hiding, living, sexuality, shame, self-belief, self-image, andrew tobias, john reid, adam d chandler, ..

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art, living, therapy, counselling, henry james, psychosynthesis, ..

Masterpiece

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Your life is/as a work of art

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moonlight, oscar2017, self, identity, psychosynthesis, barry jenkins, media musings, ..

Who is you?

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moonlight, oscar2017, self, identity, psychosynthesis, barry jenkins, media musings, ..

The face in the mirror

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moonlight, oscar2017, self, identity, psychosynthesis, barry jenkins, media musings, ..

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mindfulness, rainer maria wilke, modern life, stress, mental health, ..

Mindful of a Full Mind

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mindfulness, rainer maria wilke, modern life, stress, mental health, ..

Having it all...

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living, the heart in the bottle, fear, commitment, oliver jeffers, ..

Jar of Hearts

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living, the heart in the bottle, fear, commitment, oliver jeffers, ..

Artefacts of the living...

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henry james, feelings, transpersonal, spiritual, heart, .

Any Human Heart

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henry james, feelings, transpersonal, spiritual, heart, .

Who can guess at the depths?

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henry james, feelings, transpersonal, spiritual, heart, .

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relationship, community, becoming, self, discovery, david brooks, .

The Luckiest

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relationship, community, becoming, self, discovery, david brooks, .

People who need people...

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relationship, community, becoming, self, discovery, david brooks, .

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friendship, truth, feelings, friends, new york times, kate murphy, .

BFFs!

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friendship, truth, feelings, friends, new york times, kate murphy, .

Are forever friends friends forever?

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friendship, truth, feelings, friends, new york times, kate murphy, .

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living, dance, alessandra ferri, ballet, song of the heart, .

On Pointe

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living, dance, alessandra ferri, ballet, song of the heart, .

As in dancing, so in life

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living, dance, alessandra ferri, ballet, song of the heart, .

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time, reflective space, slow, jynne dilling, salvador dali, .

In the name of....

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time, reflective space, slow, jynne dilling, salvador dali, .

Do you know where you are going to?

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time, reflective space, slow, jynne dilling, salvador dali, .

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subpersonalities, psychosynthesis, frank bruni, dennis hastert, .

First Person Plural

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subpersonalities, psychosynthesis, frank bruni, dennis hastert, .

How many of us are there inside?

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subpersonalities, psychosynthesis, frank bruni, dennis hastert, .

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empathy, humor, media musings, charles m schulz, snoopy, woodstock, .

A Different Way

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empathy, humor, media musings, charles m schulz, snoopy, woodstock, .

You can't go home again

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empathy, humor, media musings, charles m schulz, snoopy, woodstock, .

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imagination, science, art, shauna miller, .

Imagine

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imagination, science, art, shauna miller, .

Imagine all the.. Wait - can you imagine?

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imagination, science, art, shauna miller, .

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loneliness, isolation, edith wharton, the age of innocence, media musings, .

The L Word

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loneliness, isolation, edith wharton, the age of innocence, media musings, .

Because '1' is the loneliest number

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media musings, wisdom, love, truth, sylvia zhang, the price of love, .

The Price of Love

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media musings, wisdom, love, truth, sylvia zhang, the price of love, .

Are we willing to pay it?

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media musings, wisdom, love, truth, sylvia zhang, the price of love, .

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media musings, thoughts, emotions, living, truth, stephen chbosky, the perks of being a wallflower, .

How are you?

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media musings, thoughts, emotions, living, truth, stephen chbosky, the perks of being a wallflower, .

It's not a simple question, alas

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media musings, thoughts, emotions, living, truth, stephen chbosky, the perks of being a wallflower, .

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hope, hopelessness, despair, depression, suicide, harumi murakami, .

Hope

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hope, hopelessness, despair, depression, suicide, harumi murakami, .

Coming out of the dark

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self, truth, stories, michael cunningham, a home at the end of the world, media musings, .

Coming Home

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self, truth, stories, michael cunningham, a home at the end of the world, media musings, .

To the one who really knows you

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self, truth, stories, michael cunningham, a home at the end of the world, media musings, .

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living, short-term, long-term, brief therapy, dragana djukic, nhs, .

The Long & Short of It

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living, short-term, long-term, brief therapy, dragana djukic, nhs, .

Yes, short-term Psychosynthesis therapy does yield results.

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living, short-term, long-term, brief therapy, dragana djukic, nhs, .

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emergency, emergence, identity, emerging purpose, .

Achtung

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emergency, emergence, identity, emerging purpose, .

Hold off the sirens for a moment

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emergency, emergence, identity, emerging purpose, .

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self, truth, survival, e e cummings, .

The War

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self, truth, survival, e e cummings, .

Me vs Me. You vs You. Everyone's at war.

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beauty, 5 stages of grief, elisabeth kubler-ross, the princess bride, william goldman, media musings, .

Beauty: A Gentle Reminder

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beauty, 5 stages of grief, elisabeth kubler-ross, the princess bride, william goldman, media musings, .

Go on - look in the mirror

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pain, addiction, living, iyanla vanzant, .

Pain - A Primer

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pain, addiction, living, iyanla vanzant, .

A problem with pain: Do you feel it?

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pain, addiction, living, iyanla vanzant, .

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feelings, julianne moore, .

Nothing More Than

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feelings, julianne moore, .

Julianne Moore would say that, wouldn't she?

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feelings, julianne moore, .

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media musings, isolation, loneliness, stephen sondheim, .

Alone is Alone. Not Alive.

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media musings, isolation, loneliness, stephen sondheim, .

People can survive alone - but can they truly live?

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media musings, isolation, loneliness, stephen sondheim, .

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co-dependence, relationship, friendship, me without you, media musings, .

Me Without You

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co-dependence, relationship, friendship, me without you, media musings, .

I can't live, if living is without you

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co-dependence, relationship, friendship, me without you, media musings, .

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victimhood, cs lewis, change, .

V is for...

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victimhood, cs lewis, change, .

It really feels like an ugly word

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self, soul, maurice sendak, abraham maslow, hierarchy of needs, consumption, .

Having It All

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self, soul, maurice sendak, abraham maslow, hierarchy of needs, consumption, .

Everything is everything

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self, soul, maurice sendak, abraham maslow, hierarchy of needs, consumption, .

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addiction, depression, suicide, robin williams, media musings, dead poets society, .

Oh Captain! My Captain!

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addiction, depression, suicide, robin williams, media musings, dead poets society, .

Laughter. Love. Life. And Robin Williams.

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becoming, media musings, anne tyler, back when we were grownups, .

The Wrong Person

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becoming, media musings, anne tyler, back when we were grownups, .

Once Upon A Time

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media musings, love, angelina jolie, maleficent, .

Once upon a dream

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media musings, love, angelina jolie, maleficent, .

A look at what interesting truth the new Hollywood fable 'Maleficent' offers

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media musings, love, angelina jolie, maleficent, .

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media musings, self, felicity, jj abrams, .

Can you become

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media musings, self, felicity, jj abrams, .

New version of you - I need a new version of me

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media musings, self, felicity, jj abrams, .

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vulnerability, love, cs lewis, .

Living | Loving

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vulnerability, love, cs lewis, .

To live is to love?

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vulnerability, love, cs lewis, .

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media musings, resilience, emotions, madonna, EQ, .

Heads Hearts Hands

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media musings, resilience, emotions, madonna, EQ, .

As Madonna once said: Without the Heart, there can be no understanding between the Hand and the Mind

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media musings, resilience, emotions, madonna, EQ, .

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media musings, communication, howards end, e m forster, .

Only Connect

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media musings, communication, howards end, e m forster, .

Together, alone - such is that state of modern existence

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media musings, communication, howards end, e m forster, .